It’s all about preference of personal life (-style) between two consenting adults regarding their partnership as well as they intimate relationship, and the most important it’s about trust between the two who get involved in this D/s.

If my woman let herself as my /s, I make her as my /s queen, for she is a very precious gift of my life.

“Though you may kneel before me, you will never be below me.”
In other words, a healthy and good D/s relationship is not about forcing to act or to do as one, it’s about willingness.
(For example: members of Opus Dei. Some of them are wearing cilice because of their own choice/will. There is no rule in Opus Dei to wear it).

In a true D/s relationship, both have to trust each other — emotionally, mentally, spiritually. While a D may have the power, but can only go as far as the /s will let the D. It’s a relationship style that purely into mutually fill in the deepest need from the two souls thru D/s‘ relationship.

“And when your darkness fell into mine…. we found the purest freedom.”
A /s is an invidual and completely free. A /s chooses to serve her/his D in her/his own freedom.

Being D or /s, is just that simple, but it’s not that cheap. The one as /s is someone that can trust another and let go the ropes of her/his life to someone else. D is someone that can be trusted and takes the ropes and creates serenity for the /s as well enjoy taking charge.

A true D is someone who will not angry or yell and scream at /s just because the scene goes bad or do not get the response the D wants. A true D just whispers or stares deeply into /s’ eyes, and gives the /s a gift of deep pleasure when the /s does right thing/s! If anger easily shown with yell and scream by D, then it’s the mark of a fake D!
Emotionally stable is a must as a true D.

A true /s is someone who will always remember her/his place, although the D is not around, and should behave accordingly.